The following comes from a September 4 posting on Monsignor Charles Pope’s blog for the Archdiocese of Washington D.C.
I was recently at the beach. It was a fairly nice “family beach” which dials back the loud youth culture and caters more to quiet things like dining, and more homespun entertainment on the boardwalk.
Please pardon me for what I write here. It is a little plain spoken. But at the end of the day, I wonder if a little plain talk isn’t necessary when it comes to beachwear.
Yes I must say, I always remained astonished at the tiny and revealing swimwear worn by many women. Frankly it’s so revealing and over the top that I don’t even find most of it attractive, just lust provoking, and lust isn’t pretty. There is something about modesty that I find more attractive. Maybe it’s the mystery that modesty protects which appeals. But when almost 98% is “on display” I just feel more sad and alarmed than anything.
I know that some of you will say, “But Father, but Father, what about the men? Are you just going to criticized the females?” Well, to some extent, yes. Frankly most men at the beach cover up a lot more than women do. Most men wear baggy swim trunks that reach often to the knees. And even though men don’t need to cover their chests, (at least in our culture), frankly most of our one-piece swimsuits have a lot more fabric than the two-piece bikinis of women. And even the one-piece swimsuits of most women fit very tightly so that every curve is accentuated.
But for the record, and for the sake of equality let me be clear, if a man wears a tight Speedo I am going to say he is out of line and is dressed immodestly. But frankly, I almost never see that today. Most men would not be caught dead in such a silly thing.
At a personal level it is a very great puzzlement to me why anyone, male or female, would desire to walk around in public with barely a stitch of clothes on. I admit that I am a rather shy person. I almost never wear shorts and would never dream of taking my shirt off in public. Even on the beach I wear baggy shorts that extend beyond my knees and a t-shirt. If I remove the shirt at all, it is just for a brief swim, then I put it right back on.
So I admit, I am shy. But even factoring in my shyness, the question remains, What gets into a person that they are not embarrassed to walk around all but naked? Tiny low cut bikinis that almost shout “Look here at this part of my body!”
It is all odd to me and strangely sad. When I go to the beach I usually spend little time out on the sand, and only walk there at all to be polite to friends. Normally I stay back at the house and enjoy a quiet porch and a book. But out on the beach and boardwalk a kind of sadness envelops me as I see so many young girls and women denude themselves. I walk, I do not sit on the beach, lest my celibate eyes, were to alight on a particular woman and stare too long.
It was not always this way at the beach. In fact the near nudity of current beaches was all but unthinkable until about the 1950s. As the video shows below, swim wear and modesty at the beach were carefully maintained and swimwear for both men and women covered most of the body. This began to change mid century as swimwear, especially for women, became tighter and gradually more abbreviated.
The present insanity and imprudence has been around since the late sixties, so it’s not new, but there were times, not so long ago, before the revolution, when sanity, modesty, prudence and respect were maintained even at the beach.
OK, I can hear some saying now, “Father, you are judging me…you are old fashioned….I am a modest woman and I wear bikinis….you’re a dirty old man.”
Well, I am judging, yes I am. Although it is your behavior I am judging. As for you personally, I am actually speaking, presuming you are a reasonable person who would give consideration to what I am saying, namely, that a lot of swimwear offends against modesty and tempts people to impurity….
As for being a dirty old man, I’ve got news for you. Young “clean” men also have “dirty” thoughts when they see naked and provocatively dressed women. They just do. And if you know this, (and deep down you do), why do you do it?
….This video [by Jessica Ray] gives some history of swimwear and points a way back. Enjoy it and spread the word.
To read the entire post, click here.
Trust you me, women thighs do things to a mans mind that they themselves cannot explain. I just do not look. Its not worth it.
While on the site of the original post, click on “Back to Basics” about his Catechetical Program in Recent Posts.
I agree with everything in the above blog. Now I wish someone would write an article about the proper attire to be worn to Mass and other church events. Mini-skirts, shorts and plunging necklines are not appropriate for church.
Sarah,
You are right on. I wonder, does Father talk about proper attire, church or otherwise, at Sunday Mass?
Women no longer understand why modesty is necessary. They need to be reminded, constantly, if necessary.
Nor in the confessional! I’ve seen young women go into the face to face side of the confessional, and the priest looks very uncomfortable when they are half naked. The face to face confessional has a glass door, so we can all be sure there’s nothing inappropriate going on, but really. If the PRIEST can wear his clerics, plus an alb and a stole, surely the young women (and men) can wear something other than beach attire to confess their sins!!!
Michael,
Any priest who is living up to his calling will tell those women and in some cases men, that he cannot give them Absolution as long as they refuse to cease dressing in such a manner.
At Our Lady Help of Christians, Garden Grove, CA, I as an usher have been given permission to address this issue when necessary. What a difference from almost all Novus Ordo parishes!
Pray for this Monsignor, he will probably be called on the matt by his “bishop” for being too strict. I know, priests who have used my Vatican approved “Modesty in Dress” posters have actually been decimated by their “bishops”!
God bless, yours in Their Hearts,
Kenneth M. Fisher
Sarah,
I make available for download a beautiful poster that promotes “Proper Dress in Church” in English and Spanish. I will download it free of charge to anyone who contacts me requesting it at: kmfjmj@att.net. I got my inspiration for it from my Spiritual Father, St. Padre Pio.
Kenneth M. Fisher
The Mistake is to label such costumes as ‘swimwear’ – as many if not most only get wet in the washing machine.
We live in a culture that has slowly removed most of the bathing suit material on women. Today’s swimsuits do celebrate the female body, and most of the women wearing them have a healthy view of themselves and their sexuality, but the growing problem of sexual assaults, meaningless relationships, hook up parties, and pregnant 14 year olds give some credence that quite a bit of “bad behavior” comes with the new style. That’s the problem–we have yet to come up with a more mature relationship ethic while enjoying the more revealing swimwear, or any other revealing female clothing. We don’t seem to be able to display our bodies at the beach, or elsewhere, in an environment where there are limits to what women, and men, will do to pursue a consummation of their desires, at least if a bonded, committed relationship is the objective. Moderation in all things is the best wisdom here, and we have a long way to go to achieve that.
Temptations to Sin Lk 17:1-2
” And he said to his disciples, “Temptations to sin are sure to come, but woe to the one through whom they come!
It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin. ” – Jesus.
We MUST all be mindful that we are not a temptation to others.
Modest clothing is required. Some people try to overcome sexual temptations, and we should not add to their problems or potential sinfulness – lest we become one of the causes to sin itself.
Dear Jesus, please forgive each of us for causing anyone else to sin, and please help those Souls to get to Heaven.
(Confess tempting others – by our words, actions, or dress.)
Self defined good cause,
Re.”Today’s swimsuits do celebrate the female body, and most of the women wearing them have a healthy view of themselves and their sexuality”, try telling that to Our Lady of Fatima and Her Son Who is God when you face them at the end of your life!
May God have mercy on your soul,
Kenneth M. Fisher
Good cause has no good causes most of the time. He/she is very inaptly named.
Thank you Monsignor Pope for writing the truth, and thank you Jessica Ray for creating more modest designs for women.
According to the link above the designers name is Jessica RAY but the video says she is Jessica REY. Which one is correct?
I viewed the video, whatever the correct spelling of her name is, I am sure Our Lord and His Mother spell it “Blessed”.
St. Padre Pio said that there are special blessings for those who design attractive but modest atire!
God bless, yours in Their Hearts,
Kenneth M. Fishe
I’m sure St. Padre Pio, Our Lord, and His Mother spell it “attire”. :)