Patricia (a pseudonym) is the mother of a teenage girl who in recent years has come to identify as transgender. She lives in California, considers herself progressive, votes Democrat, and leads a group for parents of children with rapid onset gender dysphoria (ROGD)—that is, youth who suddenly experience distress with their bodies and believe that undergoing medical “transition” will make them whole again. When I spoke to her recently, she recounted how her daughter’s at-first-lesbian and then trans identity emerged in response to feelings of shame about being white.
I have since spoken to more than a dozen ROGD parents and parent-group leaders who tell a similar story. Their schools compulsively tell their children how awful it is to be white, how white people enjoy unearned “privilege,” how they benefit from “systems” put in place by and for white people for the sole purpose of oppressing “people of color.” Plagued by guilt, the children—almost all of them girls—rush to the sanctuary of “LGBTQ+” identity. Once there, they are catapulted into hero status. According to Patricia, some teachers at her daughter’s school are more forgiving toward “queer” and “trans” kids who hand in their homework late.
The students, especially the girls, absorb this messaging. They are acutely sensitive to how identity affects their social status and academic fortunes. They want the warmth that comes with queer/trans identity, but above all they don’t want to be thought of as vicious oppressors. Lacking maturity and self-confidence, they fail to put “anti-racist” indoctrination in its proper context. They do not appreciate its ahistorical, anti-intellectual, and anti-humanist foundations, nor are they aware of the incentives leading teachers and administrators to foist it on them. Being white is not something these teenagers can escape, but they can mitigate its social costs by declaring themselves part of an oppressed group.
The wages of whiteness for teenagers are, however, only half of the story. Decades of gay rights activism have taught us that being gay or lesbian is not something one chooses. The mainstream narrative of transgenderism—promoted aggressively in the context of civil rights policymaking—holds that even being transgender is something people have little control over. Gender identity, experts have argued in Title IX lawsuits, is innate, immutable, and “primarily dictated by messages from the brain.” Thus, membership in the “LGBTQ+ community” would seem to be nonvoluntary. One is either “born that way” or not.
To understand what is going on in California and in other states, however, it is necessary to appreciate how the grounds for eligibility in this “community” have shifted in recent years. While both homosexuality and—depending on how you define it—transgenderism are said to be organic and unchosen, being “queer” or “non-binary” (or, again, “trans,” depending on definition) takes nothing more than an act of will; one need only declare oneself so. As a college lecturer, I had students—virtually all of them white females—who had female names, female pronouns, and a female-typical look, but who self-identified as “queer.” For many of these young women, being queer can mean simply not seeing themselves reflected in the most two-dimensional stereotypes of femininity. And who can blame them?
Several of the parents I spoke to told me that their daughters’ friends all identify as non-heterosexual, despite none having ever kissed another teenager or been in a romantic relationship. LGBT identity is, for them, not related to sexual attraction or behavior. As Kate Julian has written in The Atlantic, America is going through a “sex recession.” Whereas in 1991, most teenagers would have had at least one sexual encounter by the time they graduated high school, by 2017 most had had none. The vacuum left by the hollowing out of courting and relationships has been filled, so it would seem, by a new, inward form of “sexuality” in which the sexual side of our nature is purely a private experience. The 1960s sexual-liberation movement has somehow bred asexual atomism.
The vacuum has also been filled by pornography—and lots of it. Most of the parents I spoke to made a point of emphasizing just how much porn their kids were being bombarded with, how some of it was coming from adults in online forums (not just from peers), and how this started right around the time their daughters “came out” as trans. As Patricia put it to me, if you’re a teenage girl at the cusp of puberty, flooded with hormones, insecure in your changing body, and anxious about sex, being relentlessly exposed to pornographic content where women are depicted as male playthings can easily lead to declaring yourself lesbian or trans—or even opting out of the enterprise altogether….
The above comes from a June 20 posting in City Journal.
Democrats are ruining the country and their own families. When will enough Democrats reject this lunacy?
where are the parents?
That’s a legitimate question. But, I’ve heard the heart-breaking stories from too many devout Catholic parents who have teen and adult children suffering from gender confusion. (And, now, society wants to foist this upon young children.) The families I’m referring to are serious about their faith, with parents having made great efforts to find good Catholic education and catechesis. But, our young people are not immune from the influences of the world, especially when it’s shouting lies at them via social media and friends. My point, we shouldn’t be too quick to judge parents. Issues of gender confusion and same-sex attraction have affected many, if I daresay most, Catholic families. You may not know about that because people don’t usually show up at Mass, a faith sharing group, a school or homeschooling gathering, the parish food pantry or some other church activity and announce that. Pray for those with gender confusion and their families.
This article is about where the parents are. People don’t read.
LGBT identity is, for them, not related to sexual attraction or behavior.
If gender is so fluid, why is that it’s overwhelming affluent and “privileged” young people dealing with gender confusion?
Since gender is so basic, shouldn’t it affect all races, nationalities and income groups equally?
Did you read the article?
And only in the past two years.
This article is very good. Read the whole thing. Read for understanding.
I know a straight, white, cis-gender male who told me”I will never get promoted unless I tell my boss I’m gay.”
This is the point of the article.
The social stigma of being white is so oppressive that the only way these girls can get a break from it is to declare themselves trans or gender fluid and it has nothing to do with their sexuality. It has to do with needing acceptance, attention and affection and not being falsely accused of thinking and doing bad things just because of their skin color.
AGAIN, where are the parents????
They should KNOW, by now anyway, that
the public schools are a cesspool where, yes,
their children’s psyches ARE damn well under attack.
Why are their children still there?
Kids will survive without “smart” phones. They don’t
need access to video(porn), social media and texting.
A prehistoric phone will suffice to call home.
Parents, your kids ARE under attack. Step up – do something!
and don’t waste your time appealing to “authorities.”
THIS is on YOU.
So, is the picture of a boy or of a girl?
Max, a 13-year-old Californian who identifies as agender, one of multiple gender identities that fall into the umbrella of ‘nonbinary.’ The state will allow residents to choose nonbinary as an official gender on drivers licenses and birth certificates starting in 2019. (The picture is from an article from 2017.)
So they are now 18 and it would be interesting to hear their journey.
No, it’s not “nonbinary”; it’s either a boy or a girl, male or female, man or woman. which is it?
Almost all teens go through weird stages to try to fit in. When I was a teen most of the girls wore scarves over our heads during the cold and windy season, but the fad was to tie them over our chins instead of under our chins. My mother would tell me, “Tie that scarf under your chin, you look like a goat.” I would obey until I got out of the house and would once again tie it over my chin since I did not want my friends to see me being “uncool”.
It seems fads have gradually gotten much worse. My question is: who is paying for all that hair dye the youngster above is using. Parents? or someone else?
Or trying not to fit in.
You need to be a biologist to figure it out.