The following comes from a July 7 Marie Claire article by Julie Bensman:
At the risk of seeming uptight, judgmental, or literally holier than thou, more and more women are hiding their faith from their friends.
I grew up the way I imagine lots of midwestern Catholic kids grow up. My family dutifully attended church on major holidays like Christmas and Easter, or on the rare Sunday when my mother succeeded in wrangling us into appropriate outfits and into a pew.
My parents weren’t Bible thumpers or anything, but they saw raising their children Catholic as a key part of a healthy upbringing. Like making sure we drank our milk and did our homework.
During college and my hazy early 20s, my interest in going to church was about as low as the waistband on my jeans. As I grew older, though, my partying fizzled out and my what’s-it-all-for existential anxiety flared up. I started popping into church from time to time. The quiet hour alone proved to be calming, reflective, even nostalgic.
I didn’t start advertising my religion with a giant cross necklace or a Jesus-fish bumper sticker, but I wasn’t hiding it either—or at least, I wasn’t until I noticed the consistently stunned reactions from my friends.
“You…go to church?” they’d say incredulously over brunch, like I was suddenly Amish. I started to feel self-conscious. What was the big deal?
The faithful still make up a majority of American citizens—over 75% of people in this country affiliate with an organized religion, at last count. And they have good reason: “It’s about participating in a ritual that can be counted on to provide insight, a bit of wisdom, and maybe even a kernel of truth about the world we live in,” Brittany, 29, told me recently of why she regularly attends church.
But while society demands that, say, our presidential candidates maintain a religious affiliation, elsewhere such fealty is increasingly stigmatized. Consider pop-culture portrayal—the silly naiveté in Book of Mormon, the brainwashed militancy of Jesus Camp, the gawk-y voyeurism of TLC’s television lineup, the loopy devotion to a piece of toast on the new season of Orange Is the New Black.
Maybe it’s because of the political extremism that certain sects of Christianity seem to have taken on in recent years. When you tell people you’re a Christian now, many of them conjure Fox News, not morning mass.
Maureen, 25, is one of them. “There’s absolutely a stigma to being openly religious,” she says. “I’d never go out with a guy who lists himself as Christian on his Tinder profile.”
On the other hand, Pope Francis has proven himself to be a shockingly modern leader of 1.2 billion Catholic followers. In the two years since his papacy began, he’s spoken out on such topics as climate change, gay tolerance, and the celibacy of priests. Maybe he’s slowly but surely changing perceptions to make Christianity feel more current, more in-touch, and therefore more widely accepted.
I address this comment to the ladies , do not hide your faith, WOMEN CIVILIZE MEN your example and prayers help us to be better men . From the daily communicants to those who do the rosary before and after mass that example helps many . If you hide the faith how can it grow and flourish ? because of recent scandals we are rebuilding the trust that has been lost , this requires a woman’s touch. When greeted with shock on mass attendance simply say yes ! and I am praying for you ! I find using humor to make this point can open up a dialogue to give a defense of our God and Faith.
These young people all have such bad influences– and are very immature! America should have long ago gotten rid of its sickening, immoral, immature “youth culture!” Someday, with a little more life experience, and maturity– maybe these kids all will be looking for a church to join! Especially if they fall in love, and want to get married, settle down, and start a family! That is usually the time when American kids start to grow up, accept maturity and adulthood– and God and religion become important to them.
Slowly but surely it will be a crime to attend Mass. Catholics used to get time off on Good Friday, as banks were closed between noon and 3pm. Now we have stores open 24 hours a day. Many of the workers are Catholic, and they have to work. With the shortage of Masses, many of these Catholics miss their Sunday obligation. On the other hand, great care is being given to Moslems so they can worship. This is diabolical disorientation, and it will get worse, and the pace will hasten.
Really are you ashamed of Divine Savior, get this: “He that denies me before man, I shall deny before the Father”..Most of my friends and family know I am Catholic and proud of it, if you do not like it, go pound sand I could care less about your gentle “feelings” and being judgmental.
I think the writer of the piece needs to get out more. Unless, of course, this article is nothing more than a propaganda puff piece in the left’s war to shut Christians out of public life.
Where did the writer find that 75% of Americans affiliate with an organized religion? According to the Pew Religion Research Poll, only a small percentage attend any church regularly, or identify with a particular religion. The largest group listed recently is the “nones,” those are people who say they have no religion. Among the people I know, few people attend any church. Sadly, the largest single group I know are Catholics who never attend church, except for funerals.
Friend “Maureen’s” view on not dating an expressly stated “Christian” is most telling. Young people are, in a large percentage of cases, pagan in their world view and “religion”. They all believe in pre-marital sex, living together, divorce, contraception, homosexual sexual rights (or any kind of sexual joinings), and — the holy grail — abortion rights.
Of course women do not want to date, or be seen as, “Christian” (most specifically, “Catholic”). Not only is it embarrassing, but that status carries with it beliefs with which many (?most?) woman do not agree. Satan wins, as it is unlikely that such people will find a way to Heaven.
What, what?? Yes, Young Altar Boy, only God knows which person goes to Heaven,…
(Continued) “. . . but His Son talked about the absolute need to “follow the narrow path” and to “avoid sin” and to “take up your cross” daily, and about Hell, and the reality of going there.
If the aggressively anti-Catholic goes to Heaven, then we are all fools (to paraphrase St. Paul). Either the Church is right, or it is not; and this rightness needs to be affirmed by the Pope (or rejected).
Living our Faith with dignity is an important contribution to Society.
The Faith does not change.
Contraception, Sodomy (Sodomy Marriage), Abortion, Euthanasia, Adultery, Fornication, have been mortal sins, and still are mortal sins.
Never tolerate or appear to tolerate mortal sins. Unrepented Mortal Sins send Souls to Hell for eternity.
It is NOT Pastoral, Charitable or Merciful to help send Souls to Hell.
Wow, is that really you Anonymous? This doesn’t sound like you, or is it another? You have seemed to swing 180 degrees! This is no trick or deception on your part I hope. Could it actually be you have seen the light?
Pauls, there have been two anonymouses all along, at least that is what we have been led to believer for several months. We have ask them to put Anonymouse 1 or 2, or A and B, but they or he/she has refused to do so. The only ones to know if they are truly two different people are the editors.
Not long after the Vatican 2 Council.