The following comes from a June 6 story by Phil Lawler on CatholicCulture.org.
The “empty-nest divorce” threatens to become a familiar rite of passage in American life. During the first few years after graduation from college we are regularly invited to the weddings of our classmates and friends. A few more years pass, and we hear about the birth of their children. Another decade or two, and we may receive invitations to those children’s weddings. Then, sadly, we hear that the couples, our old friends, are breaking up.
Every divorce is a tragedy. Lawyers and legislators may speak glibly of “no-fault” divorce, but in practice there is plenty of fault on both sides. Except in the most unusual circumstances—those rare cases when a civil divorce is the proper response to legal problems—a divorce is a public proclamation that two people have failed at the most important business in their lives. Divorce, as Peter Kreeft has observed, is the suicide of a family. But in this case the suicide may claim innocent victims: the children, if there are any; the unwilling partner, if only one spouse wants to end the life of the marriage.
Yet as sad as divorce always is, it is even more heartbreaking to watch the disintegration of a marriage that has endured for 20 or 30 years, and produced a handful of children. How is it possible that a couple could live together for decades, appearing to all the world like the happy heads of a healthy family, and then suddenly abandon the project they had been working on together?
It happens even among Catholic couples, even among active church-goers and model parishioners. Something goes terribly wrong, the couple cannot fix the problem, and a family is destroyed. Ordinarily, I fear, the pastor does not know about the problem until the lawyers have already drawn up the divorce documents.
As the world’s Catholic bishops gather for their Synod meeting in October on the family, the hottest topic in public discussions has been pastoral care for Catholics who are divorced and remarried. No doubt that is a valid concern, but another question should take precedence: What can the Church do to prevent the tragedy of divorce?
Yes, yes, I know that there are times when a civil divorce is the best solution to an intractable problem. I know that divorce, taken by itself, is not necessarily sinful. But surely we should not presume, in each case, that divorce is a wise choice, that the parties are blameless. Catholics, who see the marital bond as a reflection of Christ’s love for his Church, should do everything possible to preserve that bond….
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From Divorce Tattoos on trashthedressonline.com
The October Synod on the Family threatens to become a taste of “Vatican III” for which Catholic Liberals lust. In fact, it may well happen, just as the Anglican Church — the one without the Holy Ghost — completely lost its bearings since the 7th Lambeth Conference. Nothing prevents the Catholic institutional Church from doing the same thing. Many Catholics do not consent to the “Catholic Revolution” imagined by loopy clerics like Cardinals Maradiaga, and Dolan. The Church is becoming like Soviet Russia under Stalin, even for True Believers there is always the threat of a “show trial” or the Gulag. Still, the true Church will prevail, but not as it is now. Divorce, of course it is wrong, but the people that do this are without Faith, or without hope in a future together. The Pope should insist that the Church redouble its efforts to teach the young about a Faithful marriage, about staying in Faith during a marriage, about having as many children as God permits, and raising them in the Faith; quaint stuff like that. Unfortunately, Western Society is committing suicide, with young women devoting themselves to careers and to the attainment of men and sexual fantasy (while men enjoy all that is given to them, without any need to promise anything — buy your toys, guys, have fun, and avoid working for that mortgage or supporting a woman and children, what a bother; golf is far more fun).
In the case of any divorce – ONE or BOTH parties are to blame.
There is no such thing as no-fault divorce.
From a civil standpoint, no-fault divorce merely allows the Courts to grant divorces without dealing with the details.
In most divorce cases one of them in the couple not reluctantly wants to go through
divorce procedure. Many a times divorces happen through misunderstanding and while the procedure is going on they realize their mistake. So, during this procedure,the children has to suffer for this. It’s better for the couple to first take some advice from the legal adviser before going through the divorce decision. Couple seeking help can visit the site http://www.leemeierlaw.com
Divorce is the worst situation where both the parties have to suffer.