The following comes from a Mar. 13 column in Time magazine by Camille Paglia, self-described dissident feminist.
Fertility is the missing chapter in sex education. Sobering facts about women’s declining fertility after their 20s are being withheld from ambitious young women, who are propelled along a career track devised for men.
The refusal by public schools’ sex-education programs to acknowledge gender differences is betraying both boys and girls. The genders should be separated for sex counseling. It is absurd to avoid the harsh reality that boys have less to lose from casual serial sex than do girls, who risk pregnancy and whose future fertility can be compromised by disease. Boys need lessons in basic ethics and moral reasoning about sex (for example, not taking advantage of intoxicated dates), while girls must learn to distinguish sexual compliance from popularity.
Above all, girls need life-planning advice. Too often, sex education defines pregnancy as a pathology, for which the cure is abortion. Adolescent girls must think deeply about their ultimate aims and desires. If they want both children and a career, they should decide whether to have children early or late. There are pros, cons and trade-offs for each choice.
Unfortunately, sex education in the U.S. is a crazy quilt of haphazard programs. A national conversation is urgently needed for curricular standardization and public transparency. The present system is too vulnerable to political pressures from both the left and the right–and students are trapped in the middle.
Currently, 22 states and the District of Columbia mandate sex education but leave instructional decisions to school districts. Sex-ed teachers range from certified health educators to volunteers and teenage “peer educators” with minimal training. That some instructors may import their own sexually permissive biases is evident from the sporadic scandals about inappropriate use of pornographic materials or websites.
The modern campaign for sex education began in 1912 with a proposal by the National Education Association for classes in “sexual hygiene” to control sexually transmitted diseases like syphilis. During the AIDS crisis of the 1980s, Surgeon General C. Everett Koop called for sex education starting in third grade. In the 1990s, sex educators turned their focus to teenage pregnancy in inner-city communities.
Sex education has triggered recurrent controversy, partly because it is seen by religious conservatives as an instrument of secular cultural imperialism, undermining moral values. It’s time for liberals to admit that there is some truth to this and that public schools should not promulgate any ideology. The liberal response to conservatives’ demand for abstinence-only sex education has been to condemn the imposition of “fear and shame” on young people. But perhaps a bit more self-preserving fear and shame might be helpful in today’s hedonistic, media-saturated environment.
My generation of baby-boom girls boldly rebelled against the cult of virginity of the Doris Day 1950s, but we left chaos in our wake. Young people are now bombarded prematurely with sexual images and messages. Adolescent girls, routinely dressing in seductive ways, are ill-prepared to negotiate the sexual attention they attract. Sex education has become incoherent because of its own sprawling agenda. It should be broken into component parts, whose professionalism could be better ensured.
First, anatomy and reproductive biology belong in general biology courses taught in middle school by qualified science teachers. Every aspect of physiology, from puberty to menopause, should be covered. Students deserve a cool, clear, objective voice about the body, rather than the smarmy, feel-good chatter that now infests sex-ed workbooks.
Second, certified health educators, who advise children about washing their hands to avoid colds, should discuss sexually transmitted diseases at the middle-school or early-high-school level. But while information about condoms must be provided, it is not the place of public schools to distribute condoms, as is currently done in the Boston, New York and Los Angeles school districts. Condom distribution should be left to hospitals, clinics and social-service agencies.
Similarly, public schools have no business listing the varieties of sexual gratification, from masturbation to oral and anal sex, although health educators should nonjudgmentally answer student questions about the health implications of such practices. The issue of homosexuality is a charged one. In my view, antibullying campaigns, however laudable, should not stray into political endorsement of homosexuality or gay rights causes. While students must be free to create gay-identified groups, the schools themselves should remain neutral and allow society to evolve on its own.
To read the original column, click here.
I teach both Religion and Science at my Catholic middle school, and while there is much wisdom is Ms. Paglia’s notions of what to avoid, there is less in her notions of what ought to be done. Certainly the reproductive system is as much a part of the body as any other and can be taught coolly and objectively, but since middle-school kids are not ready for sex or marriage there is no need to impart information of no use to them. I speak very briefly about the act and spend most of my time talking about pregnancy, emphasizing the humanity of the developing child (and I say CHILD) and the marvelous development of its physical powers one by one in the womb. Questions I deem inappropriate for mixed setting I answer privately or refer to a parent.
In Religion I begin with the purpose of sex in marriage, making clear it has no other legitimate purpose, that all sex outside of marriage of one man and one woman that is not open to new life is sinful and contrary to God’s plan. I don’t go beyond what the kids need to avoid temptation: for this generation avoiding immodest fashions, TV, movies and websites.
Mr Byrne God bless you. Good comments! I agree with you and also agree with some of comments made by this article too. But mostly with yours. Like one of our holy priest’s once told us parents that sometimes we give to much info at a very early age to children. To think that sex education to a selected grade level is alright is wrong because not all children can handle those facts. Not all children mature at the same time. Those topics are for parents discretion.
Good comments and you come off as a wonderful teacher with morals and good common sense. (judging from your comments here thus far)God bless you Mr, Byrne!
Thank you Mr. Byrne for teaching the TRUTH!
Our Nation was founded on very serious Biblical, Judaeo-Christian beliefs and moral principles! The baptized and confirmed Christian, or good, practicing Catholic — has a big responsibility, out of love for God, to strongly put down sin, and uphold Love and Virtue, in the secular, “fallen” world! Otherwise, no one else will do it, for God! The clergy’s job is to teach, preach, say Mass, give the Sacraments, and lead the people to Christ, on a daily basis– and really be very serious about their job!! The clergy must form the Catholic faithful in Christ, with good teaching, and help people lead good lives, daily! Everyone must learn Christ’s teachings on Holy Matrimony, the place of sex in Marriage only, bearing children, family life, and the Virtue of Chastity. Unmarried believers must be chaste! A proper Wedding Mass must be with a young man and young woman, who are good, practicing Catholics only, and keep the Virtue of Chastity, according to Christ’s teachings, before Marriage. Marriage and Family Life is the foundation of the local parish, and of society. Everyone needs to be taught properly, and brought up well, in the Faith and Morals of the Church! Mortal Sin is a terrible thing– it destroys the soul! Mortal sins that are in regards to sex, are particularly harmful, and extremely damaging! Mortal sin destroys both individuals, and whole societies! What does it take, for the Church to “get down to business,” and do her sacred job, for Christ, once again, and do it well?? The world is waiting for Christ! And only the Church can carry forth His Truth, to the tragic, “fallen” modern world, destroyed by the jaws of Satan!! Christ died for our salvation, and He is there, waiting for us all!! But when will the Church really “get serious,” about leading the “fallen world,” to Christ??
ALL sexual education must include abstinence until married.
It must include teaching of all SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE –
https://www.cdc.gov/std/
This is right from the Center for Disease Control web site –
QUOTE: “Abstinence: The most reliable way to avoid infection is to not have sex (i.e., anal, vaginal or oral). ”
Any school system that leaves out STD facts yet perports to teach sex education, should be sued.
Catholic Train ‘REC’ in La La Land…
Close to a Billion Dollars to help pay for the Evil of Pederasts infiltrating the Priesthood, and nearly 40% of that to rapacious lawyers doing what Church Leaders refused to do – hold themselves accountable for pandering to perversions…
And this week – a ‘Religious Education Conference – Exposed by CMTV:
https://www.churchmilitant.tv/dispatches/trainrec/
Good discussion here, but one point to add is NOBODY wants to go back to the hyper-Puritanical approach which brought on shame to Catholics ADULTS, accentuated by the Church yelling at the laity over birth control. In today’s world, sex education needs to begin with the clergy, the Church hierarchy, the Vatican….then and only then can you approach the laity. With 90% of US Catholics ignoring the Church’s teaching on contraception, it’s high time to “educate” our Church leaders on sex, family planning and married life. We must pray that that Church “education” will start this fall with the Synod on the Family in Rome.
not only is your “cause” not “good”, it doesn’t even make sense! First of all the “Church” can affirm life and God’s purpose for Marriage and sexuality without ever being “hyper-Purtanical”. Just a reminder that prior to 1930 even the denominations claimed that contraception was an intrinsic evil. Not only had the puritan movement died off long before 1930, but they were anti-Catholic to boot!
Another error you make is by suggesting that a majority consensus equals truth. I suppose this is why you are so absolute in stating “NOBODY wants……”. It must really cause you continual anxiety knowing that the Church will speak the truth regardless of what opinions a consensus of people hold.
Now if you really do believe that a majority consensus does equal truth, may I draw the conclusion that if, for example, you were to ever move to an Islamic nation you would promptly convert to Islam? :(
It amazes me, Tracy, how folks seem to think that priests are somehow naive when it comes to knowing about sex, the family, birth control, etc. As if priests were some mythical fairy creatures who popped out from under cabbage leaves instead of coming from – gee – families. Even if these mythical priests did exist somewhere, six months hearing confessions would render even the most gullible seasoned to the realities of what’s out there. But as always the push is to tell God ‘no’ as if blaming the messenger would disguise the fact. Taken to extremes, these proponents of progress would have us rewrite the Gospel so that the Apostles upon hearing Our Lord’s teachings on purity would take Him aside for a little sit-down session of how things really work.
Thank you again for pointing out the reality that this so called shaming of Catholic laity used to be the facts of life and God’s law taught to all Christians. And not so long ago.
God bless!
How would you know what Catholic priests think or feel? You don’t even attend a catholic church!
God bless you, Anonymous, but you do flatter me.
As to Catholic priests and what they think or feel, would you deny that priests are full grown men? Would you deny that they have an intellect? Would you deny that they have natural powers of observation?
I hope not. But then you seem to believe that knowledge and understanding is only the result of some mythical full communion. But hey, if you believe that then you will agree with me that priests are exactly what I said, well informed about family issues. Or or you saying that even those you deign to be Catholic priests in full communion are somehow left in the dark too?
God bless :)