In a viral clip being shared across the internet, pro-life leader Lila Rose of Live Action takes the guest host of ‘Whatever’ to task on what men are capable of, broaching the idea of monogamy and self-control, on a dating show that is watched my millions on platforms like YouTube and TikTok.
As we know from Rose’s appearances on Dr. Phil and other national platforms, the young wife, mother and pro-life advocate is fearless when it comes to challenging the secular sphere.
In the exchange that has garnered thousands of hits on social media, Rose questions the host, asking him: “If you have only one place in your heart for one woman, or you want to have one place in your heart for one woman, I think you said, why don’t you just commit to one and choose to be faithful to her?”
After a brief pause, he responds: “I’m just not wired that way. … I spent my whole 20s trying to fix myself.” Rose replies: “But you’re a man of self-control. You work out, you do business. You possess your own power and direct it the way you want to direct it.”
Without looking up at her, he answers: “It’s not how I am.” Then Rose asks a good question: “Don’t you think that’s a limited mindset?”
And this is the last question before the host seems visibly angry and snaps at her: “I don’t want you to think I’m triggered by you. I’m not. I saw somebody say that, and I think that’s interesting. I think you’re annoying, but I’m not triggered. You are, you’re annoying, in like this goody-two-shoes type way, and that’s fine. I’m going to live my life on my terms, unapologetically, truly, so you can ask me this 85 different ways. At the end of the day, I’m going to walk out of here the same man.”
Rose stays calm, smiling gracefully as he continues while two other girls quietly watch the exchange….
From the National Catholic Register
” At the end of the day, I’m going to walk out of here the same man.” Non serviam! You say that now, but you have a conscience, albeit one with very faulty wiring through your love of sin. Bad habits have given you your skewed perspective; in truth you were made for monogamy, and the wiring for that exists though it is very obscured. I shall pray for you that the Holy Spirit convicts you of your folly and shows you that you were made for God and His will for your life.
Before the fall, men were made for monogamy. Maybe.
We all have concupiscence of the flesh.
Only a very special grace from God of purity that very few receive stops that.
“Before the fall, men were made for monogamy. Maybe.We all have concupiscence of the flesh.Only a very special grace from God of purity that very few receive stops that.”
Very few receive the grace of purity??!!?? I didn’t realize God was so stingy.
What a mean thing to say about God?
If you have been given the gift of purity, thank Him every day.
God wasn’t stingy with the nerve endings in the genital area. That is why we have so many of these problems.
This video is from LiveAction-Lila Rose’s company.
And it has been edited, obviously.
Seeing other clips, you can see how inappropriate her behavior was.
This man refused to give his relationship status.
He said that he would not get married on paper because of the government which I did not understand.
He said exactly what a Christian man should say about being a father.
Edited, yes I agree. “Liars for Jesus” as Mark Shea would say.
He has been quoted as saying that a man should take care of a woman in every way. He revealed a couple weeks ago that he has kids, which is huge because he keeps his private life private.
And Lila Rose made the assumption that he had multiple women.
She started bustin his…,
He said that stuff about having 5 families because he had had enough of her abuse.
The truest thing he said was that Lila Rose is annoying.
Kind of like the little angels who sit on our shoulders and pricks our consciences.
Not the best choice of words unless you were trying to be funny.
Perhaps you are right as perfectly innocent words are misused all the time. All I meant is that she is like our good angel who tries to encourage us to do the right thing. Sometimes he is annoying, but we best do what he says if we want to stay out of trouble.
She was married in 2018, right? So she has been married 5 years. Nobody who has been married 5 years knows anything about life-long marriage. She hasn’t even hit the 7 year itch yet (although I think it comes at 6 years.) I looked because all the other people are talking about their lived experiences. And she is talking about some kind of ideal and it is really not Catholic teaching. It is kind of weird. No one ever told us at our pre-Canaan that stuff that she is saying. They said “Marriage is impossible without the grace of the Sacrament of Matrimony.”
I wondered if her marriage is in trouble because she has such a frozen smile on her face.
To give the guy props, she was really annoying.
Why was she lying about sex researcher Alfred Kinsey who’s been dead almost 60 years?
Somethings wrong, somethings off.
Sorry. I know she is “Team Pro-life” but…this did not work well.
“thousands of hits” does not equal “viral”. This fawning piece of flawed journalism is merely hero-worship propaganda. The Register has gone downhill since the EWTN takeover.
Well, the LEGIONARIES OF CHRIST weren’t much better when they ran it.
I recommend watching the video if you’d like to see a Catholic engage the lost with a Catholic Christian worldview, in a clear and charitable way. It’s linked below. Content caution: Lila Rose says nothing inappropriate or offensive, but others on the youtube video do. This is not for children. Our Lord directs us to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world. Here’s an example of one relatively young California wife and mother lovingly engaging those of the world with truth.
Deacon Craig Anderson, this is kind of random, but do you know the story of St. Mary of Egypt?
I watched the whole thing. Lila is only persuasive to people who already agree with her. Her debate opponents made some good points against her that she couldn’t refute or just ignored. Fact is, the church does not have a persuasive case to make.
Part of the problem is that they are trying to debate and persuade.
The Church proposes, not imposes.
People making big money on OnlyFans aren’t very persuadable.
There was a story here a while ago about a Catholic lady who was doing OnlyFans and we were all judgy and somebody came into the comments defending them. I though it was her or her husband at the time.
We need to pray for that lady in the pink because meeting strangers for sexual experiences is very dangerous. She could get killed. And she is a former pastor who knew the Lord and is now an agnostic.
Pray for her soul.
Maybe that is why the Lord brought this weird thing to us.
If you are afraid to mention heaven and hell as consequences of your sexual decisions, the only persuasive point would be to find out what the person is seeking from it.
If you want is sexual pleasure and that is the only goal, no, there is no persuasion.
I also think that at year 5 in the pastor’s marriage, she might be saying things similar to Lila Rose.
At year 12 she was divorced but she has a 12 year old child so maybe she married because she was pregnant? she said she had sex before marriage.
This younger generation is much more honest and less ashamed of admitting things than the older generations.
The younger generation is morally bankrupt.
The younger generation didn’t invent any of this stuff.
The clothes are very immodest in this video.
And this is the version edited by Lila Rose’s organization.
And she did a terrible job but she was out her league.
I do not think that you can get an annulment because you did not your fiancé was a porn addict. I think that falls under in sickness and in health.
An annulment is not “I would not have married you if I knew this.”
She was so unrelatable because she did not talk about her personal experience.
If she waited for marriage to have sex with her husband-she did not say they were virgins, she did not say how that went, she didn’t say if she did other things.
She was not right for this podcast at all.
They edited out the part where because Justin Waller did not want to say publicly his relationship status, she turned to the man next to her and very arrogantly said, “That means he has more than one.” Then started being a you-know-what to him.
I gave a pass on dishonesty because she was a teenager and a zealous pro-lifer.
But editing a video to make yourself look better and someone else look worse-dunzo.
When I was engaged, I had a friend who was married and she mentioned that she was doing something for her husband that I thought was gross and I was shocked. I have been married now for decades and I still would never do it.
but she said to me “Sex gets boring, too”.
I think sex is oversold and people have sex for the validation that they are lovable or desirable.
And it does stay that way. They don’t stay mesmerized when you take your clothes off for long.
The first time is “Wow”-maybe.
And after that you are always trying to have another wow experience and it is never going to happen. (I have heard of some very blessed couples who say that every time is like the first time.)
So you try new things and they are gross and they are demeaning and they get old too.
The threesomes will get old, too. (another thing I would never do.) My takeaway, when you have big boobs you can find two people that want to have sex with you. Most people are lucky to find one.
I finally found the whole podcast. It is over 3 hours long.
Maybe unedited will be better.
In the edited versions it looks like she is not letting anybody else talk but I think that is just a highlight reel.
Highlight: Lila Rose’s sideeye when the former Baptist pastor says she has a male partner but sees other people. Mostly women. 17:00
One girl says that she has a tattoo that says ETERNAL because we don’t live forever but she wants the things she does on earth to be eternal.
Chase (next to Lila Rose) says you can live forever then he says “Jesus” and most of the table busts up laughing.
I don’t know why but I feel the need to say this:
Mortal sin can be a nice place because the devil does not bother you.
Once you have fallen, he can move on.
If you start to turn back to the Lord, he will be all over you.
You should still turn back and call on Mary to wrap her mantle around you.
God bless you.
I quickly turned off this diabolical trash– I do not watch such Satanic-drenched filth. The Sanctity of Marriage, including the Catholic Sacrament of Holy Matrimony, has been forgotten in the evil and filth of today’s Culture of Death era, ruled by Satan. Lila Rose, an outstanding Pro Life warrior, and a lovely Catholic wife and mother of two, ought not to try to mix with these unholy, unchurched, juvenile delinquents, minions of the Devil. Let some smart, strong, and holy priests deal with these irresponsible, immoral, smart-aleck juveniles, and set them all straight. As Ven. Abp. Fulton J. Sheen stated, long ago, in his famous book, “Three to Get Married,” “It takes three to get married– you, your spouse, and Christ.” Long before that, Christ and Our Lady are with you, when you are dating, and discerning whom to marry. Christ Himself will put you together with the right one, and He and His Blessed Mother will be present at your Wedding. And Christ and His Blessed Mother will be with your family life, when you are having children, and raising them in your home, the “Domestic Church,” which belongs to Him.
i am glad you turned it off. I wish the website would remove the video link. It is really not for good Christians. I have watched too much of it. It reminded me of some of the prophecies of the Three Days Darkness. When i read that book, I was scared and could not understand how something like that could happen. I do now.
The most accurate depiction of sex I ever saw in a Hollywood movie was where when the sex was over, the guy lit a cigarette and said “do the dishes.”
This is backfiring on her in unexpected ways. People who live in a Catholic bubble don’t realize how irrelevant and unconvincing they are to those who don’t share the premises of faith. She’s been married five years and only has one child? According to some on here, that’s not a very Catholic marriage. Six or seven kids are needed. Maybe had one kid for street cred since she’s prolife. Now more kids would get in the way of her ambition and career. But the people she was talking to on the show don’t know enough about Catholic teaching about family, kids, and marriage to point that out. It’s also why the church isn’t convincing about gays. Gays don’t share the church’s premises. Arguing is futile when the parties firmly disagree about the starting premises. The church is really failing to evangelize. Sometimes I wonder what will be left of the church in the US in fifty years. I think it will be as irrelevant and tiny as the Episcopal church is.
Lila Rose suffered a miscarriage with her second pregnancy in 2021.
I’m still watching the video but one of the things that strikes me is the misandry. I haven’t got to the end of the 3 hour video but why is she all over the man for not being the kind of man she wants him to be because she assumes he has multiple lover and did not think he was a good father while a divorced OnlyfFans model with 3 children who has a male partner and many female trysts is told “I’m sorry you did not experience pleasure in your marriage.”
It’s only back firing on secular liberals who think the only thing that matters in life is what goes on between their legs. Don’t worry about the future of the Church even we have to go underground we will endure. Eventually the perversions and lies of this culture will cause it to collapse and we will arise from the catacombs to rebuild.
She challenged the 70% of married men cheat statistic but then wrongly blamed Alfred Kinsey.
As far as I can tell, the statistic is for how many men and women cheat at bachelor or bachelorette parties..
Included behaviors are kissing, getting a lap dance and even flirting.
The percentage that actually have sex with another person is 12%
Married cheating statistics (actual sexual encounters) is 20% for men and 13% for women.
I criticize Lila Rose a lot here, but I do give her props for engaging. You learn evangelization by evangelizing.
Justin Waller is a person who is spiritual and truth seeking. If he had been presented true Catholic teaching on the Sacrament of Matrimony, it might make a profound difference.
Lila Rose’s approach of asking personal questions is the wrong one. It is aggressive. It puts him on the spot and makes him feel judged.
60 second soundbites that are meaningful and profound are much better. Especially in a format that you know is going to make tiktoks with it.
Personal witness like she gave about having been Protestant (not a great term-better to say which denomination) then agnostic before becoming Catholic is appropriate.
Sometimes all you can do is humble yourself and just do the Oprah thing with saying that you believe that God is an involved God who personally makes every soul and that he has a plan for each life that he creates. Figuring out what He made you for and what He wants you to do can be tricky without guidance. Catholics believe that Jesus is God made man and the Catholic Church was instituted by Him to guide man and to keep Him present here. I follow the plan that the Church lays out for the proper use of the sexual gift within a marriage that I intend to be faithful in until death do us part. I know that anything else will not fulfill the plan of my Creator.
I bet a lot of young men Lila Rose’s age — including some disrespectful, anti-Catholic, smart-aleck young commenters, here — are afraid of her, intimidated, and put her down — simply because she is a very intelligent, articulate, well-educated, classy, and highly successful young woman. Besides being a nationally-recognized, outstanding Pro Life leader, she is also a fine, young, married Catholic woman, and a mother of two young boys.
I think you are wrong. She isn’t young. She is 34. i don’t think many 34 year old men would be intimidated by a working mom of two. Unless it is their own wife and they loaded the dishwasher wrong again.
You need lots of respect for Lila Rose, Anonymous. You — and many other commenters– had better become good Catholics, and support Lila Rose’s excellent Pro Life work, saving unborn children, for Jesus Christ! She is still a young lady, by modern standards. Young professionals today, are usually in the age group of ages 18-20, to ages 35/40. Inferior, immature, immoral young men of today’s Death Culture, are usually intimidated by (and may be jealous, too!) — and thus ignorantly put down! — highly intelligent, well-educated, articulate, young, beautiful, successful Christian women, who are dedicated to Jesus Christ, and follow His teachings.
I give Lila Rose all the respect she deserves. It is disrespectful to act as if a woman is faultless because she shares a political opinion with you.
I give respect to all women regardless of their religion, their intelligence, their education, their age, their beauty or their level of success.
Hero worship is so unbecoming.
The late, great Thomistic ethics professor Dr. Germain Grisez (Who helped Pope Paul VI draft HUMANAE VITAE) had some strong criticisms for LIVE ACTION when they started making those “sting” videos where they would visit Planned Parenthoods and secretly tape them, trying to catch them doing something illegal by first lying to them. “Catholics should regard such activity as morally and legally unacceptable,” he told CNA in a written statement on Feb. 11, 2011.
Ethics– Your professor was immoral and a terrible Catholic. It was not Liove Action– it was David Daleiden and Sandra Merritt who paid a terrible price, for Jesus Christ– for having the courage to do a routine, undercover journalism sting operation– exposing Satanic “Planned Murder-hood.” Journalists, police and the FBI do this routinely, to catch criminals! Daleiden’s Center for Medical Progress filmed “Planned Murder-hood” evilly selling baby body parts, of all the babies they murdered.
I posed as a young, scared, pregnant girl, fifteen years old, the victim of a twenty-three-year-old statutory rapist. The Planned Parenthood staff told me, into our hidden cameras: “Figure out a birth date that works.” Lie about your age on the paperwork. Say you are older than you really are. We will give you a secret abortion, and no one will ever know.
The YouTube videos we made of our tapes went viral.
Lila Rose in 2010 in FirstThings
She was 18 when she did this. She is now 34. So 2007? Daleiden was much later.
Unethical-please tell me why Dr. Grisez was a “terrible Catholic “. And don’t just cut and paste the ridiculous ideas of hyperbolic traditionalist Ronald Conte.
He posts here sometimes.
In looking up the statistics on married men and women who cheat on their spouses, I came across a piece of data that rocked my world. I thought we had gotten through all those years but apparently the decade of life when most men cheat is in their 70s. For women it is in their 60s.
The longer you have been married the more likely it is that your partner could cheat on you.
I looked up Alfred Kinsey. DON”T!
But apparently in the extreme pro-life movement (and I don’t mean being pro-life is extreme, we are all supposed to be unconditionally pro-life but in the part of the movement where these kinds of things are read and talked about) Alfred Kinsey is considered the grandfather of abortion and gay marriage etc.
I do not think what they say about him is accurate but what I remember is that most people just knew his name and associated it with sex.
What is known about him now was not known about him then. Sex (even the word was not said back then) was a taboo subject.. I remember a different book that impacted people in the 1970s
It is not true that he only interviewed prisoners who were into very dark stuff and extrapolated it onto the general population.
This is something you do not really want to educate yourself on. You will be happier if you don’t.
I really cringed when Lila Rose talked about how many people want to adopt.
Not all those people want to adopt for good reasons.
When you put a child up for adoption, you are risking putting them in a situation of neglect, abuse, child porn, human trafficking, slavery.
People are very naive about what can happen to a child that is fostered or adopted.
There are websites and even auctions where people who have found they do not like their adopted child, try to re-home them.
See this link: