The following comes from a May 11 Federalist article by Denise Shick:
Last month, America watched athletic hero Bruce Jenner come out transgender. Most Americans have no concept of what transgender means. Others who watched Jenner’s Diane Sawyer interview were family members whose lives have been affected by a transgender loved one. As I heard Jenner’s story, I felt saddened, and remember the grief I went through when my father came out to me as transgender. After all, this is undoubtedly emotional for all involved.
when my father came out to me, I no longer felt free to embrace my identity as girl in our home. I felt rejected by my father. I was too embarrassed of my father and his impact on our family to talk about it with anyone—even to my best friend. Even so, I loved my dad and desperately wanted him to serve in the capacity of being a father.
So, this year, when I wrote my amicus brief with the International Children Rights Institute, it was not out of revenge for my lost childhood, but rather out of concern for other children who might endure childhoods like the one I experienced. It should not only be only the adults whose voices are heard. The children who come from untraditional homes should be equally important.
One mother shared with me a time when her husband—who began transitioning to a woman—took their young children to the grocery store. When the four-year-old daughter called out to her daddy in the store, he sharply told her to call him aunty. The child was heartbroken and cried out, “I want my daddy.” The angry parent hustled the crying child and her six-year-old brother out of the store to the car, and rushed home. The six-year-old remained quiet until they arrived. There, he told his mother what had happened, and said he never wanted to see his father again.
Another situation was of a 16-year-old boy who shared the story of his father’s transition into woman: “It feels like my dad put me out the curb with the trash.” A boy needs a dad who is more than a provider and a disciplinarian. He needs a dad who is willing to connect with him on an intimate level, socially, and who teaches him by example. He needs a dad who will build into his life the tools he needs for healthy character development.
Children like me who grew up in painfully untraditional homes are not allowed the freedom to voice their true feelings in a society ruled by political correctness and the LGBT agenda. Most of us don’t even recognize what our circumstances cost us until we are adults, and in some situations not until one or both living parents are no longer with us. At that point we might comprehend it all and finally be able to express what our lost childhoods have done to the remainder of our lives.
If the Supreme Court opens the door to gay marriages nationally, it will force open doors to policies, including those that promote transgenderism. None of these policies are based on the well-being of children.
Please, America, children’s needs must take priority over a special-interest group.
Let’s be clear here. Shick doesn’t believe children need a voice. She believes that children who are having difficulty in the early stages of the adjustment process when a parent transitions should be exploited to create increased anxiety in a family working through a difficult period. She has no interest in hearing from children with LGBT parents where the children are fine with the parent or when the child has worked through the issues involved. Exploiting family dynamics for political purposes is pretty horrid way to show concern.
Yes, let’s be clear. Negating and/or downplaying the repercussions to a child’s long term development by indicating issues were “worked out” can also be classified as disingenuous exploitation. Many politicians who do know better are indeed making use of the highly emotionalized dynamic of those adults who can vote to the complete negation of the children who cannot.
Also, “working something out” implies that there are problems, YFC. Obviously, since Shick is an adult, she is coming at the issue from an adult’s perspective. But an adult who is focused on the well being and basic needs of children, not the desires of adults who seem intent on putting their needs first despite the long term consequences to those for whom they are duty bound to care and nurture.
Your seeming flip with regard to the concerns of children is interesting, too. For aren’t you the one who advocates that children’s need for support should come first if that child is confused about their gender, etc? You’ve expressed before something akin to the deep pain a child you consider to be trans-gender and/or “gay” (something I don’t ascribe to) experiences when he/she doesn’t have an accepting and/or transgender/gay role model.
Well, YFC, all children need role models. So while you stump for the rights of the so-called gay/transgender child’s needs, please don’t relegate the need children have for accurate male/female role modeling in their parents.
You seem to have no tolerance for hearing and/or valuing the legitimate concerns of children robbed, sometimes from birth, of normative parental influence.
Why is that?
I have very great interest in the children and the adults involved. Which is why I don’t think it is a good thing to hoist children into the public eye, especially when they are having difficulties in their families. Chances are very high that without the intervention of outsiders like Shick, these children will learn that the parent they grew up with is the same parent after they transitioned, that the love that we present for the child is there just as much after transitioning as before, and that the transition is not a reflection on the worth of the child at all.
Children go through many learning and emotional processes. For many, if not most, even the normal process of pubescence causes conflict in themselves and in their family. Maybe the girls who are just beginning their use of trianing bras should be given a voice! Let’s put them on Larry King, or 20/20?!!!
No of course not, pubescent children do not need to have people from the outside, with their own agendas, forcing them to parade their own emotional growth into the spotlight, as though they will not continue to grow after the spotlight is not shined upon them by others. Families change, whether the parents have new jobs, or careers, or even when they have to move for work. Sometimes parents are sick, with heart attacks or cancer. All these changes within families cause stress for children, no doubt. Give them a voice, put them in a spotlight, pretend that they are being victimized? Hardly.
YFC, you’ve hoisted children in the public eye for the very purposes I posted earlier. That is why your dismissal of children’s issues, when legitimately used to point out the other effects this gender-bender-push so obviously creates, is radically disingenuous.
A father’s love given in a manly fashion as a “man” is integral to children, YFC. The same can be said for a mother’s love. You cannot escape that.
This is also why the tool of, “Children deserve to have their “parents” recognized as married,” is nothing but pure exploitation and avoiding the issue. Even with the distraction of training bras.
Where have I hoisted children into the public eye? Where?
This is such a relevant article to the conversation. Also, I was just thinking about archeological finds when they discover a funeral cache, for example…they find male bones or female bones, adult or child. They do not find homosexual, transexual, pedophile bones. Please read!
Home school re-education camps run by sexually confused parents are not good for kids. The tree is rotten, so is the fruit. Children are taught that evil is good and they know in their hearts this is not the case. These perverse “transitions” are an abomination and as always, the children suffer.
A person who has all the body parts to father a child and does father a child is a man. That is all he ever will be. If he has a so-called sex-change operation, all he will be is a mutilated male. To force ones offspring to say a man is a woman or a woman is a man, is just child abuse or adult child abuse.
A woman who has all the body parts of a female and gives birth to a child is a woman and a mother. That is all she will ever be. If she attempts a so-called sex-change operation, she will just be a mutilated woman.
Forcing children and other people to say black is white and green is purple is abusive and dishonest. I remember the first time I saw a woman dressed as a man on a bus when a child, I questioned a relative about it. She replied, “Oh that is so and so (her name). She thinks she is a man.” There is the crux of the matter, Thinking does not necessarily make it so. What if the person thinks he or she is a tiger? Do we have to call them that? Our society is more weird, and I do mean weird, every day.
Even John Hopkins Hospital no longer does so-called sex-change operations because the personnel their says it does not help.
Correction: personnel there, not their.
The vast majority (75%) of transgender persons do not have “sex change operations”.
So what! They still are not facing reality.
Anne T., I think this is one of those things where you have to just pray for people.
No, we have to tell the truth in charity. Unless a person is born with ambiguous sex organs, they are either a man or a woman — period. The Church forbids its doctors to destroy good and healthy body parts.
Anne T., you simply don’t have the qualifications to say what you say. You are not trained in psychology, physiology, in sexuality, or in gender issues. Why not simply accompany people in their journey in life? Why is it necessary to wag a figure at people who want nothing more than to live authentic lives, love those around them, and work through the challenges that life brings their way? Why do we have to judge people over things that Jesus never spoke about?
YFC Christ never spoke of incest or bestiality but we know its wrong. What you and the rest of the homo-sex left want is every barrier ripped down so that you can have sex whenever and with who (or what) ever you want and be accepted. It is that simple the perverted Left wants sexual anarchy and the Church’s blessing of it. We must learn to reject tolerance and be more judgmental
Cansius gender identity is not about sexuality, and certainly bears no resemblance to bestiality or incest. AND, it’s really non of your business how another person views their gender identity. Take care of your own morality, and give people benefit of the doubt that they are good people and want what is best for themselves.
Actually YFC it becomes my business when thugs like you intend to impose on me as normal lifestyle and demand by the force of the state and law that I accept it…I give NO ONE the benefit of the doubt … but once again you did not answer my questions
I did not mean that we should not pray for such people, but that along with prayer we must always support the truth. When businesses such as Facebook have over a dozen different ‘genders’ listed, from what I have heard, one knows something is wrong. That is one reason why I refuse to even use their services. Life is complicated enough without all that.
Hey “YFC”, if I meet a 6’4″ MAN who is wearing a dress in the LADIES room, it’s very much my business. HE may think HE’S a woman but to me HE is a security risk in a confined space. Normal female reaction, no need to try to preach me out of it!
Anne T is correct. I agree with her and with Kristin.
Then wouldn’t that make them transvestites? I genuinely don’t understand. How do they claim a gender reassignment?
I personally think it is better if the person stops in the transition process whenever they feel OK. Gender reassignment surgery is not necessary for that in some people.
A person is considered transgender if the gender they recognize in themselves is not the same as the gender assigned at birth, usually on the basis of the presence of genitalia. The process of gender “reassignment” is just that, a process, that usually begins with changing dress and hair, but may progress into the use of hormones, and various surgeries and procedures to minimize hair, Adams apples, etc. Not everyone has everything “done”, but they are considered transgender after their discernment of their gender identity regardless of how far they have progressed with the medical procedures.
You who call yourself YFC are not qualified either. You do not even know the difference between the functions of an alimentary canal and a reproductive one. You advocate their misuse. Who would trust anything you say? All you are doing is trying to seduce people into destructive, unhealthy behavior. I used the advice of excellent doctors such as the good faithful Catholic and Christian doctors who helped saved my life. That is why I am still alive today. No thanks to people such as you.
“…All you (YFC) are (is) doing is trying to seduce people into destructive, unhealthy behavior.”
Very well said in addition to YFC’s having no credentials whatsoever.
And because the “research” of the Johns Hopkins psychologist, Dr. John Money, on which “sex re-assignment surgery” was based has been thoroughly discredited by his confreres. The surgery Money advocated IS nothing more than mutilation.
How disturbing an experience for a child to experience a parent transgenderizing or should that be transmorphing? No, I think it’s transmogrifying. Grotesque whatever it is. A mockery of God’s creation.
You probably already read this in your local paper, but in case you missed it…
Mr. Purcell is based in Pittsburgh and is a good writer. Men will really appreciate this.
Bruce Jenner appears to be mentally ill. This transgender business is from the devil, who attempts to distort what God has created. He made man and He made woman. You are either one or the other. It is not God’s plan for anyone to play Mr. Potato Head with their genitals.
Not to mention Clinton, that he was a good looking man but a woman? Yech. God gave him so many gifts and he is basically saying to our Lord, :This is what I think of Your handiwork! I can do better. This is MY body” . Jesus gives us His body every day. What a world of difference when we leave the safe and perfectly designed world God created for us for a basically satanically ruled place where no one is ever satisfied with what they look like, what they own, where they live or who they’re with. It’s always better just down the road, in another country, a bigger house, a skinnier body, more awards, more money, more more more….hell is never being satisfied.
People who have lycanthrophy (think they are wolves) have mental problems too. What are they going to do with them? Waste the public’s money giving them hair growing hormones and allow them to walk around on all fours in cages with a wolf label on the cage. Sorry but I think cutting off people body parts just to please them because these doctors do not know what to do with them is evil, and it is evil not to speak out against evil.
Self centered adults !!! Is it ever about what’s best for the children ?
Thank you Joe. I agree. I dont believe in divorce but in situations like these, women finding themselves in such situations should be able to get an annulment and leave to protect her children. Its a tragedy. I wonder what the church says in regards to getting an annulment? Does anyone know?
It is not fair to poor, little children– to turn their mommy or daddy– into an unrecognizable FREAK!! NOT FAIR!! It is also not fair, to the SPOUSE!! What is the poor spouse going to do, with their MARRIAGE VOWS?? Is this marriage– still valid?? In such troubled cases– I think it is much better, for the State social workers, to come to the home and investigate– and perhaps remove the children, from this psychologically hazardous environment! Place the children in solid foster or adoptive homes! As for the injured spouse, wondering what to do with his/her Marriage Vows– best to get an annulment! It is completely wrong, to give stupid, over-rationalized excuses for this tragic behavior– and to ABUSE a poor, helpless child, with such BALONEY!! Best if a transgender like Bruce Jenner, never marries! Maybe he feels mental relief, from his life-long suffering, in his situation, since seeking to change to be a woman. But one cannot inflict pain on others! It is NOT FAIR! It is also not fair– to terrorize little girls and women– in transgenders’ use of public bathrooms, which are designed for multiple use!
Mr. Jenner is obviously mentally ill, and in serious trouble over the Fatal Car Wreck he caused in Malibu.
His Choice Pretense of changing Gender models other Aging ‘Celebrities’ desperate to remain in the spotlight (Like ‘Hasbian’ Kelly McGillis of ‘Top Gun’) long after their star has faded.
That and the ‘Kardashian Thing’ – which is such a mess of pseudo-celebrity dysfunction that the whole gang should be arrested for camera mugging.
There are Only Two Genders (XX = Female; XY = Male) – Genetic / Gestational Birth Defects notwithstanding.
This is one reason that Gaystapo Enforcers are so desperate to shut down any ‘Counseling’ such as Jenner badly needs, because it might turn away recruits who add to their publicity scams.
The ‘Medical Ethics’ of Mutilating Normal Healthy Genitals (increasingly popular amongst Male Murderers who want transfers to Women’s Prisons) are also Closely Mirrored to the related phenomenon of:
Apotemnophilia Masquerading as Medical Morbidity
– Apotemnophilia, or “love of amputation,” – Apotemnophilia is defined as self-desired amputation driven by the patient’s erotic fantasy of possessing an amputated limb and overachieving despite being handicapped.
The desire of a patient with apotemnophilia for amputation is obsessive, and a history of repeated, unexplained injuries to the same segment of the body is common among these patients.
Patients with apotemnophilia secretly harm themselves to necessitate amputation of an injured limb, which creates a diagnostic challenge for the health care provider because of the atypical presentation of self-inflicted medical morbidity caused by apotemnophilia.
I Blame ‘Monty Python’ for the whole Drag = Woman problem, although I am sure the English Public (meaning exclusively private) Schools played a role.
Before the Pythons regularly (and shrilly) portrayed Women in their comedy skits, there was relatively little save for the Tony Curtis / Jack Lemmon / Marilyn Monroe ‘Some Like it Hot’ movie. Then came “Rocky Horror” and TV followed with ‘Bazoom Buddiez’ (Tom Hanks got his start playing a TV Drag Queen – Men posing as Womyn in order to get a cheap apartment where Men were banned) – and the whole Men in Drag routine became campy.
However – the basis fact is that such Heavy Drag is just as alien and unnatural for Women as for Men. I know of a number of Women (XX) who will Not go out in Public without first doing what they call “Putting on a Face”, and some even have permanent makeup tattooed in place.
Likewise with High Heels – which are estimated to cause 90% of serious foot problems, and yet the more extreme the lift the more ‘fashionable’…
At least to the tailors / fashionistas Selling the Empress’ New Clothes – who have all the latest Must Have / Don’t Need accessories, which in no way actually relates to the Female Gender, but gets marketed that way for fun & profit.
Men who use such disguises are only following the lead of Women who know how contrived the process really is, but that it often works on certain types of guys.
This is a good article. It is needed to express and be the voice for the children having to endure these sort of scandals. Transgenders need help, not acceptance. The children having to endure this and even their wife’s, it is an emotional roller coaster for them. I hope that people stay away from politically correct responses and actually help families deal with this truthfully and to make sure to inform the children that it is OK to follow God’s way and His natural law, that they are not wrong to feel discomfort or disgust for what is being imposed upon their home life. Great Article CCD. Keep it coming, bringing awareness and helping children and women who find themselves in such situations. I pray for real solutions to follow.
Anyone who for a moment doubts that Children have a Male (XY) Father and Female (XX) Mother – should check out the Donor Sibling Registry http://www.donorsiblingregistry.org
It is a site where Children of allegedly ‘anonymous donors’ can link up – find out who is related to who (which eases Dating considerably) and gather information on the Parent (usually Father) who was deliberately excluded from their lives – except of course for His Presence in the Genetic Material in Every Cell in their Bodies.
Turkey Baster Creationists are ultimately selfish and narcissistic losers – who visit upon their children their Hatred for the Opposite Gender (like academy award host ‘Doggie Hoser’ / Harris – whose vile rants about women are cinematic history in the Harold & Kumar movie), and who Deny Children a Birth Right not out of necessity – but rather simple childish spite.