In an interview with the teen fashion magazine Marie Claire, actress Mindy Kaling said paying to have her eggs frozen is the perfect gift for a co-ed home from college.
“I wish every 19-year-old girl would come home from college and that the gift… instead of buying them jewelry or a vacation or whatever — is that their parents would take them to freeze their eggs… They could do this once and have all of these eggs for them, for their futures.”
Kaling had two children this way in her late 30s and rhapsodizes about the process: “It was the best part of my life.”
“This is absolutely appalling — perhaps the worst advice ever,” said Ruth Institute President Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D., of Kaling recommending young women have their eggs frozen. “It’s wrong on so many levels.”
Morse noted: “As Naomi Schaefer Riley, a senior fellow at the American Enterprise Institute, wrote in the Deseret News, Kaling forgot a few salient details. The procedure is iffy at best. According to the Centers for Disease Control, only about a fifth of these painful and expensive procedures actually result in a live birth. Other sources put the odds at closer to 11%.”
“And that’s not the worst of it,” Morse continued. “It takes the father completely out of the picture. It makes single-parenting the ideal. It overlooks the reality that children raised by single parents are more likely to exhibit any number of social pathologies, from addiction to mental health issues.”
“At best, you have children raised without a father’s love and direction. At worse, you have another human tragedy. Is it fair to the child? Of course not, but in these situations, it’s all about adult desires. Children are a sideline to their story.”
“The best advice you can give a 19-year-old woman is to take her time and make the effort to find the type of man she will want to marry and have children with,” Morse urged.
“But, of course, in a teen fashion magazine, you wouldn’t find such ‘uncool’ advice.”
The above comes from an August 27 posting on The Stream.
The Church does not permit IVF, even for married couples. Her assumption though that there would be no father is not correct (obviously). More people are doing this as a hedge against aging but it is not moral for us to do so.
Here’s news for women: your fertility drops dramatically from age 35 on. Have kids in your twenties. Get married early to a good man and start a family in your twenties.
Different me (or if the website just gave you that name): that is the temptation. You won’t be fertile when you find the right man or if you never do, you wont get to have any children. The quality of your eggs declines over time as well. So if your harvest your eggs and freeze them when you are younger, you will have a healthier child.
This is immoral but this is what tempts people. They see nothing immoral about it.
Things are not like they were before.
One reason is women in college. I see a lot of marriages right after college for couples who meet at Newman list colleges.
It used to be that 20% of women had children before the age of 20. That is down to 13%. Maybe because of abortion.
Women who have career goals do not want children until later.
If you do not meet your spouse in college or before, it is really difficult to find someone.
Workplaces now discourage male-female fraternization. Companies are very vulnerable to lawsuits if a man says the wrong thing to a woman or she takes it wrong.
Men now say they afraid to ask a woman at work to go out for a drink.
A lot of people now meet online but it can be a long time until they actually meet in person.
This is a tough one.
What can you call someone who is BEYOND brain dead?
Brain deader
a Deader Header ???
You call them the deceased.
You really don’t need to be sophomoric with people you disagree with.
Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, Founder and President of the Ruth Institute, is excellent! IVF should be outlawed. And all books, magazines, and other material for kids, should promote only wholesomeness, morality, Chasity in dating, Traditional Marriage, and good family values.
Fascism
Fascism? No. IVF is irresponsible and condemns millions of “unwanted” embryonic children to death. We must pass laws that RESPECT the sanctity of human life, and protect all children, from the moment of conception– and RESPECT God’s Plan for one man and one woman to normally and naturally conceive children, in the marital act.
Every child deserves a real Mother and a real Father, and to be created naturally, in their marital act. A child does not deserve to be created unnaturally, in a petri dish, possibly with an unknown “sperm donor.” An unknown “sperm donor” is not a true Father– not fair to the child. Also, millions of artificially-created embryos end up being destroyed. IVF should be banned.
“I wish every 19-year-old girl would come home from college …”
I wish every 19 year old girl could discover a different, better
path than going to college.
In this day and age, there’s GOT to be a better way.