The following comes from a July 12 story on LifeSiteNews.com.
They’re called “fapstronauts”: men and women who, for whatever reason, have signed up to take the “ultimate challenge” and conquer the urge to masturbate (“fap” in Internet slang) and/or use porn, whether it be for a certain, set period of time, or permanently. And joining their ranks is quickly becoming one of the hottest new trends on the social media site Reddit.
The growing phenomenon recently captured the attention of New York Magazine and Nerve.com, and currently the leadership is in serious talks with Hollywood A-lister Joseph Gordon Levitt, whose anti-porn film Don Jon is being released later this year, to have him come on the site for an AMA (Ask Me Anything) session (UPDATE: This has since fallen through). Meanwhile, a short film highlighting the negative effects of porn and/or excessive masturbation is in the works on Kickstarter.
Already there are over 65,000 fapstronauts, with hundreds more joining by the day. These modern warriors against sexual temptation have gathered together under the roof of a dedicated “sub-Reddit” (/r/NoFap), where members can request publicly viewable badges (operated on the honor system) that track how many consecutive days of “fapstinence” they’ve clocked in, share their favorite tips on how to resist the urge, encourage newcomers by describing the benefits of a life of Spartan-like self-discipline, and seek solace and encouragement to get up and dust off when they fall back into old habits.
The rules are few and simple: read the disclaimer (participants take a noFap challenge “at their own risk”); be respectful; don’t post pornography or links to the same; be sensitive in describing the details of your sex life in deference to the more easily “triggered”; and finally, only mention religion when it directly relates to your motivation to take up the NoFap challenge.
The last rule surprises a lot of people, says Alexander Rhodes, the unlikely founder of the forum, and along with it a burgeoning anti-porn social movement (although he readily admits that the general idea of quitting masturbating for a period of time online long predated the creation of the forum). Most people naturally assume that any group that takes a negative view of porn, let alone masturbation, must have close ties to the Christian/conservative social right. But Rhodes can confidently assure them that this is not the case: he himself is an atheist.
While it might seem odd that an atheist is leading a crusade against “fapping,” the first thing that Rhodes explained in an interview with LifeSiteNews is that that’s exactly not what he’s doing. While he acknowledges there are plenty of noFap members who might disagree (and they’re welcome to their opinion) he believes masturbation can be healthy in moderation. Porn, on the other hand, he takes a darker view of.
Like a large number of (arguably most) young men his age, the 23-year-old Rhodes grew up on porn, which he discovered online at an early age. While admitting that he’s unsure if the smut is to blame, he describes himself, without elaborating, as having been a “hyper-sexual” adolescent. When he eventually became sexually involved with real women, he says he found the sex shallow and unfulfilling, and, in time, he began suffering from delayed ejaculation (the inability to orgasm during normal sex with a real life partner – an increasingly common complaint amongst heavy porn users).
That all changed one day in June of 2011. That’s when a thread about a study that found that men who don’t masturbate for 7 days experience a 45.7% increase in testosterone levels hit the front page of a popular forum on Reddit, sparking intense discussion. The conclusions of the study appealed to the budding biologist (Rhodes recently finished a B.S. degree in the science), and after several Redditors floated the possibility of founding a NoFap forum, Rhodes took the initiative and did so, “in the 23rd hour of June 20, 2011” (in the somewhat dramatic wording of a brief history of the forum penned by Rhodes).
The rest, as they say, is history. In the beginning NoFap ran weekly and monthly NoFap challenges for a small handful of devotees. But as the numbers of fapstronauts rapidly grew, the administrators hit on the idea of the badge system, and now forum members have the freedom to set their own challenges based upon their own personal goals….
FAFF describes himself as NoFap’s “resident Catholic/conservative weirdsmobile,” and is as quick to cite (from memory) specific passages from the Catholic Catechism and Thomas Aquinas as Rhodes is to speak about evolutionary psychology. But despite being surrounded with all the wealth of Catholic theology, including Pope John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, from an early age, FAFF says he found himself in the same humiliating position as his atheist colleague: obsessed to the point of addiction with pornography and masturbation.
Ironically, he stumbled on NoFap the same way many other users do – while searching for porn to use for masturbating. What he found amazed him, and revolutionized his life: a group of mostly atheist and agnostic Reddit users who, without ever reading a lick of Catholic theology, were independently discovering, simply through personal experience, everything that he had learned from years of reading the writings of the Church.
“They were — often without realizing it — reaching in the direction of sexual truths that I recognized from my catechism,” he says. “But they hadn’t read this stuff in a catechism, hadn’t been taught it from a pulpit or an NFP class or their parents. They were discovering it (slowly, in pieces) by having lived through it. They were stunned by what they were finding, which went against what they’d been taught. And they were no less stunned to discover, all of a sudden, that they were not alone in feeling this way.”
But the thing that struck FAFF the most, was quite simply what he describes as the “joy” of NoFap users, “the joy of people who have just heard the good news of freedom from pornography for the first time.”
This contrasted with what he had experienced in many religious-based sex addiction recovery programs, which he says tended to be too full of guilt and “self-flagellation” for “joy to take root.”
While he wouldn’t necessarily recommend sending a Catholic teen with a porn problem to NoFap, due to some of the uncouth material and more bizarre ideas in circulation on the forum, he says that it proved to be exactly what he needed to get a handle on his problem.
“I found the spirit of NoFap very attractive — holy, in its violent and sometimes graceless way — and their hope and joy proved a little infectious,” he says. “So, every time I felt the urge to read some erotica, I went there instead and dispensed advice and encouragement.” In time, the moderators of the community noticed their new highly active member, and invited him to join them in moderating the forum. The result, he says, has been “a time of unparalleled success in my long battle to learn chastity.”
….FAFF admits that NoFap, on its own, isn’t necessarily enough. As a Catholic, he says, he feels that he has been given an advantage over many of his fellow users. While they are left to fall back on their own willpower and resources, he knows that he of himself cannot possibly win the fight for sexual purity, and that ultimately it is an operation of gratuitous Grace.
“One of the great cruelties of secular humanism is its suggestion that a person can shape himself into anything he wants simply by putting his mind to it,” he says. “NoFap is a great help for the 99% of the process that is simply putting your mind to it, but sometimes it misses that last 1% that has to come from somewhere else.”
“I know I can’t resist this temptation all on my own. I am not in control of it. Without help from some factor outside my control — I recognize it as grace, others may call it good luck — I will fail….”
To read the entire story, click here.
There can be and probably is a dangerous takeaway from all this new “anti-fapping” whoopla growing on the internet, and it may be something that it’s founder intended: and that’s the danger of THIS notion, “WHO NEEDS RELIGION TO CONQUER BAD HABITS?” Huh, maybe, possibly? the current rage of many seculars to just “FIGURE IT OUT FOR OURSELVES, WHO NEEDS GOD?” Yathink? I do think it. Expunge the reality of the 10 COMMANDMENTS, the SERMON ON THE MOUNT and all the other Judeo-Christian concepts that more or less ruled America until about somewhere in the ‘fifties. Who over 40 and perceptive to various signs of the times can doubT what I’m posting? Just asking. GOD BLESS ALL, MARKRITE
markrite, while, I do believe you do have a valid point, my first reaction to the story took on a different form. I see that many of the “scientific” discoveries of today further validate the profound wisdom of the 10 commandments and the claims Christians have been making for over 2000 years, as well as the Jews prior to this! Science is merely the unmasking of the truth that is God! Many a proud person has been humbled, and thus ultimately converted to the truth of the Gospel through scientific discoveries. The Holy Spirit can and does incorporate many avenues to lead man to the truth.
Maybe this is not a direct parallel, but, this story reminded me in many ways of the story in Acts of the Apostles, when St. Paul told the people of Athens that they had been worshiping the One True God under the guise of “The Unknown God” This was the avenue which The Holy Spirit used to open the Athenian’s eyes to the truth of the Gospel.
I also find it interesting, how God oftentimes works in the lives of His children. God could have cured FAFF, a Catholic man with knowledge of Pope John Paul’s “Theology of the Body”, outright of his addiction to pornography, but instead used his weakness to send him to a forum where atheist and agnostics hang out. To top this off, now FAFF has been invited to become one of the moderators of the forum. It is my prayer that our Lord, through the use of scientist’ discoveries, as well as His servant FAFF, will bring more lost souls into His Kingdom!
My only rejoinder to your excellent post, Tracy, would be that: as long as it’s not JUNK SCIENCE, I’m with you. But with all of the militant atheist science writers around, and the specious crap they hand out to fool the people, I’m personally kind of skeptical as to what you’ve posted. Now if they’ve CONVERTED to Judeo-Christianity, it’d be a different story. But very few have. GOD BLESS, MARKRITE
markrite, after reading the rest of the story which this article is linked to, I see that the No-Fap website works as a kind of internet support group. The science I am referring to is the MRI and blood studies which show changes in body chemistry due to sexual activity. These changes actually bond a person to their partner. (Some of the same chemicals also bond a mother to her child with each act of nursing.) This was created by God in order to help keep two married people faithful to each other for a life time. The problem comes in when a person has multiple partners with multiple break ups. Obviously, a person who is addicted to porno and masturbates is effected by the same structural and chemical changes as a person who lives a hook-up life style. As this article points out, these people are finding out that when they engage in porno, they have less satisfying sex with a real person. Of course, we Catholics have always known that this has always been the devils lie, perpetuated by our culture, which says no harm, no foul. Ultimately, if we as a culture, had trusted in God and His laws all along, we would not have needed science to find out that what God has always demanded, all along, was always for our own good!
While we would hope that an atheist on the NoFap site might ultimately see the truth of the Gospel, we can not expect this to happen without God’s grace nor without the individual’s responding to that grace. I would add, however, that even if the person does not convert, while this would be unfortunate for his soul, the fact that he gave up a perverted life style would ultimately be better for all of us.
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I wish I were not gay…sometimes it seems like the whole world just doesn’t understand my pathos as a gay man…is there any hope?…I feel very bereft at times…treatments plans for conversion are effective…any ideas how?
Budd, that’s your c’mon line, right?
C’mon buddha, are you serious?…